Sowieee but brace yourselves. This is a long post and it doesn’t apply to everyone.
Two weeks ago after the wedding in Darien(Connecticut), Steven and I had a conversation with some of his friends (who are sds on SA/SM) and you wouldn’t believe half the things they said. Basically, they said a lot of helpful things/ shared their experiences, but they also talked a lot of shit. A lottttttt. You think men don’t gossip/ talk shit? Think again. I was surprised by the things I heard. Some of them know exactly what they’re doing and they’re playing you as much as you’re playing them. Many of them are not stupid at all. In fact, some are quite observant but choose not to let it show. This is what I got from them in a nutshell:
Be realistic: I’m sure you’ve heard this a million times but I’ll repeat. Some of you really need to tone down your expectations. When Steven and his friends shared some of the requests they get from sugar babies, I was blown away. All I can say is, stop watching Trophy Wives. You’re not Jennifer Stano. Obviously, her lifestyle is filling some of you with these ridiculous ideas or something. One of Steven’s friends, Baron, talked about how a sugar baby he was with for 2 weeks wanted a Porsche convertible for her 21st birthday. At first I thought he was joking but apparently he wasn’t. A fucking Porsche. Seriously though? What will it be next, a private jet? I mean come on. Again, please tone it down ladies.
Just because he earns six figures per year, doesn’t mean he has to spend it all on you: These men have bills to pay/expenses to take care of. Put that into consideration. You’re not the only one with needs.
Enough of the sob stories: The truth is, everyone has a story and unfortunately, we all have problems. Some more than others. But stop playing the victim card 24/7. I’m not saying you shouldn’t share your story but NOT on a first date. Try to steer clear from that. Remember ladies, drama free.
Keep your self-esteem problems at home: If you have a problem with your weight or the way you look, keep it between you and your mirror. I don’t think it’s a good idea to tell a pot/sd that you feel so ugly/fat or whatever. It raises red flags and you’ll send most of them running for the hills. Confidence is key when you’re with a pot/sd. My advice, if you have issues with your weight, start exercising/eating healthy.
Keep up with your lies: If you tell a guy you have a full ride scholarship to Duke one day, don’t tell him you need money to pay your tuition/loans couple days later. If you need to write it down, do it.
Good looks will get you far. But intelligence will get you further: I’ve noticed that some girls think looks mean everything in this game but nahhh. Although the media wants us to think that men only care about looks, in actuality, they also care about intelligence and someone who can communicate with them. Don’t get me wrong, looks are important and it’s good to keep a neat appearance, but brains go a long way too.
Big words are good…sometimes: Personally, I’ve noticed this on sugar baby profiles in the past. It’s easy to tell who spends hours combing through a dictionary/thesaurus. My middle school teacher used to say, “intelligence is not measured by your vocabulary.” It’s okay to express yourself with simple words, rather than using big words in every sentence just to make yourself sound smarter. Again, I’m not saying you shouldn’t use big words but it’s not necessary all the time.
Learn proper etiquette: It will come in handy.
This is a mutually beneficial relationship: Enough of the me.me.me.me. Think about your sugar daddy’s feelings too. If your sd is spoiling you, treat him nice. Be respectful. Appreciate it. There’s no need to be a bitch or an asshole. Keep your attitude in check. Men have feelings too.
A lot of men on sugar dating sites are not as rich as they claim to be: Obviously, we all know this but Steven confirmed it once again. Some of them exaggerate their net worth to get more women. He also added that some guys put less than what they actually earn. I’m not sure why but I just want to say, don’t be quick to disregard a guy who earns 50K per year. Just because he earns that much, doesn’t mean he won’t spoil you/ give you the allowance you want. Some times it’s good to keep an open mind. You never know.
Save your money/spend wisely:What will you do when the allowance stops coming in? Steven always says, “I didn’t get rich by spending all my money.” Instead of spending $2,000 on Louboutins so you could show off, save that money for the future or use it to pay your loans/debt. I’m not saying you shouldn’t shop or spend on yourself but think twice before doing so. It’s very easy to spend money. Your sugar daddy may not be around forever to supply it.
Background checks do not reveal everything: I definitely learned my lesson with this one. “The devil is handsome. He’s not a red monster with horns and pitchforks. If that was the case, we’d all know him every time he comes around.” I think this quote applies to this. Just because you found no criminal history, doesn’t mean the person isn’t crazy/psychotic. Some people know how to mask their evil deeds. Just because a pot is handsome/nice, doesn’t mean he’s completely harmless. If you’re out on a date, pay attention to his body language/movements. Be careful. Listen to your instincts and never get too comfortable. Always be prepared in case of emergency/if things go sour. And lastly, if it sounds too good to be true, well, you know how it goes…
I got a lot from listening to Steven and his friends and I hope this helps you ladies.
P.S: Darien is a wealthy town and you all know what that means!. It’s one of the pot centrals in the East Coast/ one of the richest places in America. Before I left, East said that the Starbucks on Post Rd was the go to place to find pots and she was right! I didn’t get any digits because Steven was with me the whole time but I’ll definitely go back one day. If you’re ever in Darien or in the area, check out the Starbucks and Sugar Bowl restaurant. The food is okay but it’s raining rich men out there!
I smell a road trip in my future.